Protect Her Confidence
Good morning, I woke up this morning thinking about the topic of confidence. I have a daughter, and each day of her life I tell her how much she is loved and that she is beautiful. Why do I do this? Not only because it’s true, but also because I want to ensure that no matter what, without a doubt, regardless of what anyone else may tell her in the future, that she knows she should have confidence in herself. I believe confidence building begins at an early age and has a tremendous effect on the decisions we make in the future.
My dad never ever ever told me I was beautiful. But he did tell me I was an ugly baby. He told and retold the story of my grandmother handing me to him as an infant and his response was, “what’s wrong with her head?
Many of us lacked childhood confidence building which shaped the direction of our lives. For example, my dad never ever ever told me I was beautiful. But he did tell me I was an ugly baby. He told and retold the story of my grandmother handing me to him as an infant and his response was, “what’s wrong with her head?!” He would say, “you finally grew into your head, and turned out looking alright.” My confidence was repeatedly attacked throughout my childhood. Because of that, I made so many regretful decisions, because I had no idea how amazing I was. I accepted so many things I shouldn’t have, because I was never told that I deserved more. It’s easy for people to say “have confidence in yourself,” but that's not an easy thing to do when you've been programmed to do otherwise. When I wanted to go to college, I was told “you probably can’t handle a university, you should go to a community college. That's more your speed.” However, my grades proved otherwise. As a matter of fact, my GPA at the two universities I attended was significantly higher than than my community college GPA. I graduated with honors in college, just as I had in high school. What does all this mean? It means, that if we are people with no support or external motivation, we 100% must find a way to motivate ourselves. We have to look at ourselves in the mirror and say. “YOU are beautiful. YOU are amazing!” There are so many people who will doubt you, belittle you, or maybe even attempt to victimize you, but you have to find a way to encourage yourself. If you have a small child like I do please protect their confidence. Start early, building their childhood confidence now, because the world will undoubtedly attempt to tear it down. Don’t believe me? Look around you. How many people say “I want to start my own business,” but go to the same 9-5 job for 30 years without doing it? How many people have dreams they never fulfill because of “life.” Countless people right now are working to fulfill everyone else’s dream but their own. I wrote a poem shortly after my grandmother passed away entitled, "I Quit." You can find it on my poetry page if you would like to read it. Other than my mother, my grandmother was one of the few people who encouraged me. She told me, "you don't fit in, because you were meant to stand out." And I will never forget that.
..."you don't fit in, because you were meant to stand out."
Again, confidence building starts early. So please, when your daughter asks if she’s pretty or your son asks if he’s handsome, be the first person to tell them they are. When your child says “I can do it.” Be the first cheerleader in their lives who tells them they can. --